Several notes about cultural consideration of grief and loss.

这是一个太沉重的话题。每个种族，每个人群都有自己的痛苦需要去埋葬。听到这些故事都好痛心。谢谢他们的分享。以下是根据个人分享所写的一些反思
1. Military
Their shadows look so tough under the sunset
While waiting for appreciation and acknowledge
They suffered with silence for losing their dear battle companions
They gave their lives to protect the peace of the world
But when people with same faith
ask them “Shouldn’t you feel guilty for killing?”
That is their weakest moment
But the comfort from God
Will take away all their hidden sorrows
And make them strong
as what you see

军人威风凛凛地往那一站，

却也只是等候一句认可与感恩。

连失去挚爱的战友也只能默默承受。

献上了生命来保护的家国天下，

最终被同路人问道“你杀过人不觉得愧疚吗？”

这是他们最脆弱的时候。

但是从神而来的安慰

终将挪去他们心里的一切忧伤

并使他们更加刚强

正如你所看到那样
2. African American
Life
Is already a tough topic
The process of historically pursuing the freedom
Till today’s nonacceptance
The deep dignity in the culture crash with the society’s colored glasses
The heart fulfilled with scars
But in Lord
Redefining their identity
Struggling but blossoming flowers from the muddy ground

活着

原本就是一个很沉重的话题

历史性追求自由的过程，到如今的不被接受

深层的自尊文化与有色眼镜的社会碰撞，

在心底结出一道又一道的伤疤。

却在主里，

重新找到关于自己的定义

在一片泥泞中挣扎着开出一朵坚强的花来。
3. Chinese
The romantic culture of poems and distance place
Is due to too many unresolved grief needs to be buried
Thought innocently that changing places could provide a new start
Sadly it did not solve the problems from the root
Because the deepest pain of this culture
is from the sins and separation with God

诗和远方的浪漫主义文化

原来只是因为许多没有被解决的痛苦需要去埋葬，

以为换了一个新的地方就可以改变。

可悲的是，

一次又一次的出走，

都无法彻底解决这样的问题。

因为最深的痛苦，是从罪和与神分离而来。

4. White American
Energetic with young days
Laughing and partying
But living in such isolated invisible boxes
All the news is from the internet
including the death of dear ones
Those unspoken words
Are the tears unshared behind those smiling faces
While being so precious
in the eyes of the Lord

活泼青春，

看似没心没肺

欢笑着，疯狂着

却活在一个一个无形无色的盒子中间

所有所知都从网络而来

连亲爱之人的死亡也常常是如此被告知

那些不曾说出的话

也是笑脸背后的眼泪

却在主的眼里

亦是无比珍贵

写在最后：对于每一个人而言，逃避痛苦，视而不见，简直是太容易的事情了。而在主里正视痛苦，却可以帮助我们成长，使我们背负的担子轻省，在主里面被修复，被医治。

Feel the pain, validate the pain, and deal with the pain.

去感受痛苦，承认痛苦，并去修复这些痛苦。